1. Intensive care
there was I,
standing there,
not knowing what to do,
and there were you,
lying down and
fully occupied with death.
I felt a little useless.
it didn’t seem
something I could help with.
not like mowing,
or helping paint the house,
or clearing out the shed.
a one man job,
I guess,
is what you would have said
If you could.
David Kirkby
2. Conversation
my 6 year old daughter asks me,
conversationally,
if she ever met her grandfather.
I explain how he died
soon after she was born
and far away.
i’ve seen his photo though,
I hear her say,
and I tell her
how I told him about her,
the day that she was born,
and how he would have loved her,
and she smiles, gives me a hug
then walks outside to play.
David
Very nice 👍
Thank you for directing me to these. The line about it being a one-man job...phew. That says it. Witnessing death is such a privilege and such a set-apart experience.
At three years old, my own daughter was interested to know more about her Opa, who of course had died many years before her birth, which led to her having a real obsession with death for a good while. Lots of deeply philosophical conversations with her for a few months.